Every New Year's Eve my family members sit around the dinner table and share our New Year resolutions.
Since my daughters are adults now, I think I've heard it all. The New Year resolutions have spanned more than three decades and they shave covered lots of ground.
I will save up to buy my own bicycle, I will be nicer to my mom and I will spend more time doing homework.
I will start an exercise program, I will make sure I get more sleep, I will never get involved in bad relationships, I will spend more time with my friends, I will get that promotion, I will lose 10 pounds and keep them off.
I'm sure nothing you haven't heard from your own brood.
The nice thing about New Year resolutions is that they look so great and promising on the New Year and are as promptly forgotten as yesterday's snow by the first week in February ( I know I am being generous here).
Fortunately New Year Resolution is mostly of traditional value so most of us do not spend much of the year pining over all those unfulfilled resolutions.
Since I am a big fan of change for the better, this year I propose a new type of New Year Resolution.
This year I start a new personal tradition. I will make NO New Year Resolutions.
Starting with 2008 I will not promise to do anything different. I am not adding anymore pressure to myself. I want to become kinder to me, more accepting and less critical of the way I do or say or think things through.
I strongly suggest you consider this alternative to the New Year Resolution.
Think what happens when you decide not to push yourself to DO something different.
Just be and be kind. Stop putting yourself down when you do something wrong. How many times do you call yourself names when you drop something, you forget something and you look in the mirror?
This year let's just say no, I am okay and if I do something I don't like I need not call myself names or get mad at myself.
Watch how you start feeling when you just accept yourself in reality and stop trying to fit someone else's standard of thinking, dressing, judging, whatever.
Take a closer look at how your body reacts to a modicum of acceptance and kindness toward yourself.
Isn't that seriously annoying back spasm a lot better when you stop fighting it and just go with the flow and let the pain just go through you?
Fact is that when you stop trying to do things and just accept your life as it is and yourself as the real protagonist of this life, you heal a lot faster from whatever ails you. Life becomes a lot easier to live and the stress of work, relationships, SMS, Email, globalization and everything else becomes a lot easier to bear.
I am not saying don't run away from home and go on vacation any opportunity you have.
What I am saying is that if you stop working so hard to be a different person, if you become kinder and gentler and more accepting of yourself and cut yourself some slack instead of piling the stressors, you may find a great 2008 ahead and no regrets left behind!
I have all intentions of really doing it this time at least 50% of the time.
Happy New Year!