Valentine's Day is the Hallmark designated day to show your love for your spouse, partner, lover, etc. to the outside world.
I like Valentine's Day, but let's remember not all of us are in loving and caring relationships, if at all.
When you look at it truthfully, Valentine's Day is often an exclusionary celebration where at least 50% of the population is left out.
Now that we look at it in more realistic terms, let's further delve into Valentine's Day.
First, let me wish all the best for a fun day to those who are the really happy couples. They deserve it because they unequivocally have worked very hard at making their relationships solid and loving. From personal and professional experience I can tell you, it takes a lot of serious time and work. Anyone who says it's all luck is either naive, or lying. Love is a good start, the next step is never ending serious, caring, relentless, work. The couples I am speaking of don't need a special day to celebrate what they already celebrate every day of their lives by having a great relationship. They know it better than I can write about it.
Second, here are some thoughts for the other half of the population:
- If you want a good relationship, you can have it. While it takes two to tango, only an adult can have a successful, kind and loving relationship. Anything else is child's play.
- Today may not be the day to decide if you want to really be an adult, so, let's just use today to become better prepared to either have a relationship, or better yet, enjoy your own company a little more.
- Make today an opportunity to be gentle and kind to yourself. If you are alone, make it a special day, one that brings peace and joy to your heart. No guilt or regrets! Lead with your heart, not your head!
- Look at your positive accomplishments and rejoice in them, don't get caught up in "I wish, if only...."
- Take a look inside and become less judgmental of your own foibles. Accept your reality and be happy you are alive. You are human and the beauty of being human is that we make mistakes and survive. We can even enjoy life more, if we learn from the mistakes and don't ignore but rather take full responsibility for them.
- Take pleasure in truly helping others. Since it is a day to give love, make sure your actions are motivated by love and compassion. If you cannot be compassionate or loving to someone around you, stay away from that person.
- Give freely without agendas. Don't compete with the outside world. Make competition obsolete. Use the energy to become a better, kinder, more loving person.
- Make love your primary intention. It doesn't need to be sexual to mean it is love.
As far as I'm concerned, I send you ALL my Love!